Stop With The Skinny Shaming

“You’re so skinny”, “are you anorexic?”, “do you actually eat?” – just a few of the comments people have made to me over the years! I have always been slim, I danced for 10 years starting at age 9 and for several years I was dancing almost 7 days a week. My metabolism is incredibly high and I had always struggled putting on weight. I wanted to share with you my struggles and the MASSIVE issue with people ‘skinny shaming’ thinking it’s not offensive or upsetting. I know this is a subject that a lot of people will relate to but at the same time a subject that even more people don’t understand.

Dieting is extremely common and people talk about loosing weight openly, but what about those people that can’t put weight on? What about the people that want to put weight on but when spoken about are looked at in the most ridiculous way!?

From a young age I was classed as “under-weight” even though I have always enjoyed my food and eaten very well. I would regularly go to my GP and ask what I could do to put weight on, I was sent for blood test to make sure that everything was okay and working as it should and they always come back clear. My doctor would always say that it’s my high metabolism and that I should enjoy it while it lasts! Buying clothes was a bit of a nightmare as a size 6 was too big and at this time a size 4 wasn’t really a thing!

The biggest issue for me was other people. The comments made about how skinny I was and questioning my eating habits! My reply to them was always “would you tell a bigger person that they were fat?” To which of course they would say no and I would ask why they thought it was acceptable to tell me constantly that I was skinny! They would look confused as they didn’t understand what I was saying or understand that it was offensive!

I’m at a stage now where I’m extremely comfortable in my own body and the skinny comments have really died down…..until a couple of weeks back! Before I go into it, I’m a confident person that will often voice my opinion and stick up for myself…I couldn’t in this situation as I was in shock and far too upset as to what was being said!

A girl I see daily and speak to quite regularly, out of know where went in on me about my size! Saying how her and another girl always comment on how much I eat to each other. How I’m “worryingly skinny” and with the dirtiest look said “so I guess you’re a size 6?” Like that was that worst thing in the world! By this point I was in shock that a grown woman would be such a bitch to my face and be so offensive and not think about what I may have gone through or how it might make me feel.

I eat A LOT! I enjoy food so much but also I have a stomach condition that requires me to eat often so that acid can’t build up. Not that I should have to justify myself to anyone! This situation really upset me, I went home and cried and it was still upsetting me the next day. It really hit a nerve so I thought I needed to share it with you guys!

It amazes me how ignorant people can be and how people still think it’s okay to make comments on people’s size. People can be naturally ‘skinny’ and not have anything wrong with them. I think it’s so important for people to realise this and not be so quick to make judgements.

I’d love to hear from you if you have been through something similar. And to anyone else please think before you make these kind of comment as it can really affect someone without you even knowing!

Lady Like Laura

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17 thoughts on “Stop With The Skinny Shaming

  1. Jess says:

    I was always really tiny when I was little. Up until probably halfway through college, I was a size 0 and it was so challenging to find clothes that fit properly. I would get these comments all the time as well, asking if I was anorexic, while I was mid-bite into a juicy cheeseburger 😂

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  2. Cherylin sutcliffe says:

    Babe you come from slender build on my side I weighed 7stone 3 till I had you. two brothers before you where I put on just a stone and lost it straight away. I put on more with you but had reached 30 so kept a bit of weight after you where born. I had same remarks at work suggesting I was anorexic wouldn’t know a diet if I fell over one. I now approaching 60 and still only weigh 9 and half stone. I still get told to put on weight. Easy said then done but a lot of it is jealously. I’m happy how I am as you are you are beautiful inside and out. Hold your head up and be proud of who you are. You have a wonderful man just like I have . No one else matters. Xxxxx

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  3. foundationsandfairytales says:

    I’ve always been a pretty average weight, I’m never going to be ‘skinny’ but I try my best not to put too much weight on either although I’m not blessed with a fast metabolism so it can be quite hard! I completely agree with you that you wouldn’t call someone fat to their face so why is it acceptable to comment about how skinny they are or call them anorexic? I think it’s so rude and I cannot believe what you had to go through a couple of weeks ago, you definitely shouldn’t have to justify your actions to anyone!

    Jess // foundationsandfairytales.wordpress.com
    xx

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    • ladylikelaura says:

      I think weight is always something most women think about in some way or another! And I thought most women would support each other and encourage positivity around weight but it surprises me how many jump at the chance to shame! Thank you so much for taking the time to read and comment it means a lot 💕 I will be doing the first time tag post in the next week or 2 so il be sure to link your post xx

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  4. Anna | Yes, Little Hummingbird? says:

    I feel this post so hard; I was underweight for most of my life. At one point someone called CPS (Child Protective Services) on my family because I was “too skinny”- which led to us (an already impoverished family) having to go through the trouble of proving I wasn’t being abused- including thousands of dollars of medical bills we had to pay ourselves to have doctors who were not my pediatrician prove it, too. It was the worst. And the comments I got growing up! Jesus. Between that, the comments, and the pressure to be thin in general, it’s really no wonder I actually developed Eating disorders. And yet people don’t see an issue. It blows my mind.

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      • Anna | Yes, Little Hummingbird? says:

        I’m definitely better. No formal relapses since 2011- though I’m currently on high alert because of health problems. But my Husband’s watching me closely and so’s my doc, and I haven’t relapsed yet, so all is well!

        Honestly, I don’t know why people can’t understand how harmful saying anything negative abotu someone’s weight is- regardless of whether or not they’re fat or thin. I wish they’d just stop.

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      • ladylikelaura says:

        That’s really good to hear, I hope you get better soon and it’s great to hear you have some supportive people around you.

        I know, they don’t realise the damage it causes even when you tell them how hurtful it is they still don’t truly understand x

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