“You’re so skinny”, “are you anorexic?”, “do you actually eat?” – just a few of the comments people have made to me over the years! I have always been slim, I danced for 10 years starting at age 9 and for several years I was dancing almost 7 days a week. My metabolism is incredibly high and I had always struggled putting on weight. I wanted to share with you my struggles and the MASSIVE issue with people ‘skinny shaming’ thinking it’s not offensive or upsetting. I know this is a subject that a lot of people will relate to but at the same time a subject that even more people don’t understand.
Dieting is extremely common and people talk about loosing weight openly, but what about those people that can’t put weight on? What about the people that want to put weight on but when spoken about are looked at in the most ridiculous way!?
From a young age I was classed as “under-weight” even though I have always enjoyed my food and eaten very well. I would regularly go to my GP and ask what I could do to put weight on, I was sent for blood test to make sure that everything was okay and working as it should and they always come back clear. My doctor would always say that it’s my high metabolism and that I should enjoy it while it lasts! Buying clothes was a bit of a nightmare as a size 6 was too big and at this time a size 4 wasn’t really a thing!
The biggest issue for me was other people. The comments made about how skinny I was and questioning my eating habits! My reply to them was always “would you tell a bigger person that they were fat?” To which of course they would say no and I would ask why they thought it was acceptable to tell me constantly that I was skinny! They would look confused as they didn’t understand what I was saying or understand that it was offensive!
I’m at a stage now where I’m extremely comfortable in my own body and the skinny comments have really died down…..until a couple of weeks back! Before I go into it, I’m a confident person that will often voice my opinion and stick up for myself…I couldn’t in this situation as I was in shock and far too upset as to what was being said!
A girl I see daily and speak to quite regularly, out of know where went in on me about my size! Saying how her and another girl always comment on how much I eat to each other. How I’m “worryingly skinny” and with the dirtiest look said “so I guess you’re a size 6?” Like that was that worst thing in the world! By this point I was in shock that a grown woman would be such a bitch to my face and be so offensive and not think about what I may have gone through or how it might make me feel.
I eat A LOT! I enjoy food so much but also I have a stomach condition that requires me to eat often so that acid can’t build up. Not that I should have to justify myself to anyone! This situation really upset me, I went home and cried and it was still upsetting me the next day. It really hit a nerve so I thought I needed to share it with you guys!
It amazes me how ignorant people can be and how people still think it’s okay to make comments on people’s size. People can be naturally ‘skinny’ and not have anything wrong with them. I think it’s so important for people to realise this and not be so quick to make judgements.
I’d love to hear from you if you have been through something similar. And to anyone else please think before you make these kind of comment as it can really affect someone without you even knowing!
Lady Like Laura