I overthink EVERTHING! My brain never switches off, wether it’s what I’m up to at the weekend and thinking through every detail in my head from what time, what to wear, how it’s going to go, to exaggerating a situation and thinking of all the worst possible outcomes! It’s hard work and it infuriates me at times! Don’t get me wrong it helps with some things as it makes me super organised but 90% of the time is draining and hard work! There’s a few steps I take to help my brain stop working at 100mph!
1 – Keep Busy
Wether you enjoy the gym, watching films or like to get creative, what ever it is, do what you love to do! Keeping busy for me is getting stuck into a blog post or going for a long walk with my Fiancé. This really helps to clear my head, take my mind off the 10 things that are whizzing around and gives me some time out. It’s so easy to get caught up in your thoughts and an hour passes and you haven’t managed to get anywhere except from even more frustrated and deeper into that situation you’re playing over in your head! Why not try a few of these activities to help:
– Colouring in – if you haven’t tried it, I promise you this is one of the most therapeutic activities!
– Baking – get stuck into baking your favourite kind of cake – plus there’s a tasty treat for you at the end of it!
– Read a book – get lost into a story that’s not your life story!
– Find a hobby – I like going to the driving range
2 – Talk about it
This is a big one for me but I know it’s not easy for a lot of people. Talking through the situation with someone close to you can really help put it in to perspective. I find that getting it out in the open, bouncing ideas off someone else and releasing it from my head is the best thing and I instantly feel better. If you struggle with this take it step by step, maybe write it down so you can get it out of your head, build yourself up to talking about it out loud as it really does feel good! Always make sure it’s someone you trust, that will just listen and be there for you.
3 – Think positive
Okay, I know this sounds ridiculous because if it was that easy to stay positive then you wouldn’t over think everything right?! I know, I know, but trust me this does really help! Why always think about the worst thing that can happen, why not think about the best things! If you have a positive out look it’s more likely that what ever it is will turn out better. If you feel yourself getting caught up in bad thoughts, take a second and think bout how you can turn it around and stay positive!
4 – Take a deep breath
Overthinking can a lot of the time turn in to anxiety. I have really got on top of my anxiety lately and don’t suffer half as bad as I did 6 months ago. Focusing on your breathing really helps, I always close my eyes and take long, slow, deep breaths, in through the nose and out through the mouth. This may sound really cliché but it really does work. I’m not one for meditation but I can imagine if you are this would be a great way to focus your mind away for the craziness that comes with overthinking. Take 5 mins, sit somewhere quite and just breathe! If you’re out or at work and it kicks in, sit on the loo for 5 mins and try it, it has really helps me re-focus and get back on track!
5 – Have a self care night
Now I’m sure you don’t need me to tell you that having a night all about you is pure bliss! Face masks, bubble baths, scented candles and maybe a glass of wine (I don’t drink so a nice cuppa!) Put your favourite music on and fully relax! Nothing beats a good pamper and the feeling you get after! Take a night off, get your favourite bar of chocolate and have an early night! You can’t help but feel good after some self care so make sure you make some time for you every now and then, especially when things feel like they are getting too much.
These are just a few things that I find help with my overthinking, I’d love to hear if you have any hints and tips on how you deal with it yourself. And just remember you’re not on your own, there always someone there to listen, you can always drop into my DM’s I’d love to have a chat!
Lady Like Laura